Loving Others as Myself

Love the world as your own self; then you can truly care for all things.
– Lao Tsu, Tao te Ching 1

People share similar needs.2-4

People need food and drink.
People need clothing and shelter.
People need physical and mental health.
People need safety from threats and dangers.
People need friendship and a sense of belonging.
People need to feel their lives are worthwhile.

When people’s needs are not satisfied, they suffer. Other people want to avoid suffering, just as I do.

When people’s needs are satisfied, they experience happiness. Other people want to experience happiness, just as I do.

When I help people satisfy their needs, so they are able to avoid suffering and experience happiness, I treat them in the same way that I would like them to treat me. I am loving them as I love myself.

References
  1. Lao Tzu. Tao Te Ching. Translated by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English (1972). New York, NY: Knopf. Second Vintage Books Edition (2012). Quote taken from page 15.
  2. Larry Litwack (2007). Basic Needs – A Retrospective. International Journal of Reality Therapy, 26: 28-30.
  3. Mark Koltko-Rivera (2006). Rediscovering the Later Version of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: Self-Transcendence and Opportunities for Theory, Research, and Unification. Review of General Psychology, 10(4): 302–317.
  4. Roy Baumeister and Mark Leary (1995). The need to belong: Desire for interpersonal attachments as a fundamental human motivation. Psychological Bulletin, 117: 497-529.